The Value of Relationships
Relationships can be messy, dirty, complicated, and difficult. Friendships, marriage, parents, siblings, and work peers all belong to our circle, and each can present its own unique challenges and tensions. Small misunderstandings, differing expectations, and life’s pressures often complicate these bonds, requiring patience, honest communication, and ongoing effort to maintain.
A faithful friend is the medicine of life." - Ecclesiasticus 6:16
"The good life is built with good relationships." - Robert J. Waldinger
While I do believe wholeheartedly that we are meant to socialize and form good, trustworthy connections, I will admit I tend to fall into the more pessimistic camp. This is a challenge for me because I am a very high extrovert. I talk with people at work and offer advice, yet the relationships I consider truly trustworthy—especially at work—are few, limited, and very selective.
There are some people who are naturally very skilled at nurturing friendships, and others who struggle with it. In my heart I do want to nourish and maintain meaningful connections, but I’ve been burned before by people who acted like friends only when I could offer something they needed; once I couldn’t, the relationship faded away. After experiencing that a few times, it’s hard not to grow a bit pessimistic and guard yourself against trusting too quickly. But as I got older I learned a few things about relationship:
Be Present & Listen Actively: Give your full attention to the other person, concentrating on what they are saying and why, and seek to understand their needs rather than merely waiting for your turn to speak.
Show Empathy & Respect: Make an effort to recognize and validate others' feelings, motivations, and personal boundaries, treating them with consideration and dignity.
Communicate Openly & Honestly: Share your perspective and concerns clearly and transparently, fostering trust through straightforward and respectful communication.
Be Reliable & Accountable: Consistently follow through on commitments, admit mistakes when they occur, and take responsibility for your actions to strengthen credibility.
Express Appreciation & Kindness: Offer genuine gratitude, small acts of support, and thoughtful gestures that help others feel noticed, valued, and cared for.
Relationships takes work. You have to be intentional and purposeful.
